Ethical Values And Our Societies

Hello ladies and gentlemen…

I will deviate a bit yet again. My topic today says;

Ethical Values And Our Societies  

No matter the obstacles one passes through in life, let’s try as much as possible to do the right thing most times.

Ethics are meant to guide us, create a consciousness in us, that every action sprouts a reaction. It creates a conscience in our minds.

People do so many horrible things to others, you wonder how they were raised. Didn’t anyone teach these ones ethical values?

This isn’t about religion or being religious. This is about doing the right thing.

How many people these days are ready to say “NO” based on ethical values? How many would be principled enough to go against “status quo” because it’s wrong?

Let’s take for instance in the ancient times. Our forefathers, they weren’t Christians or Muslims, they weren’t educated yet there was a consciousness in them of right and wrong. Some of them committed uncountable atrocities. Make no mistakes, they knew which was which. Punishment meted were often severe for certain offences.

The thing is, most times nobody ever holds you responsible for the petty acts you commit against your fellow human being. Frustrating others efforts at your place of work/neighborhood. Doing all sorts of despicable things against people around you. Fact is, chances are, you could scheme, commit and get away with it most times, no one being the wiser.  Payback day springs when least expected though.

What will it cost a man or woman to desist from causing others pain? To avoid hurting others? Or causing unnecessary havoc to others…?

Altruism, which is defined by the English dictionary as; “regard for others, both natural and moral”; “devotion to the interest of others”; brotherly kindness – opposed to egoism or selfishness.

If a quarter or more of the people sharing this world practice this trait, there won’t be so much hatred, racism, tribalism, bigotry, terrorism, wars all over the place.

Instead of intolerance; discrimination; prejudice. Why not embrace tolerance, kindness towards one another? Would that be inconceivable?

The undeniable fact is, those that commit hate crimes are bigots. I don’t believe it’s easy to brainwash a heart of gold, filled with love and kindness to go out and kill countless number of people for religious sake. For a heinous crime of such magnitude to be committed by anyone. That heart was already filled with hate, intolerance, bigotry.

I implore us all to be selfless in our daily lives. Let’s value others lives as we value ours. Being altruistic is a trait we should strive for, if we hope for the next generation to meet a better world. A world where your religion won’t matter, neither would your race, colour nor tribe.

Discarding superiority complex and accepting others, as we would accept ourselves and our own will go a long way to squash uprising, hate crimes, tribalism, bigotry from our respective  societies.

Let’s show love to one another. Where there’s love, there would be peace, selflessness, acceptance, tolerance. It’s not an impossible feat if we begin now to instill ethical values in our children, wards. Practice it in our neighborhood; states and countries until others begin to emulate. Let’s also applaud those that exhibit selfless attitude in our society, encourage those that  show kindness and love to others. This attitude will encourage others instead of instigating hate and intolerance among ourselves.

I urge us all to embrace peace and love, as we celebrate Valentine’s day and beyond. Treat others as you would treat the love of your life.

Happy Valentine’s day!

Is Truthfulness Overrated In Life Affairs/ Relationships?

Hello ladies and gentlemen…

My topic today says;

Is Truthfulness Overrated In Life Affairs/ Relationships?

Before I give my opinion on this particular issue, which by now you are aware, I have lots of them to give. Lol Let’s quickly find out what truthfulness is all about.

My English dictionary defines truthfulness as; ” The quality of being truthful.” Now- I ask, what is being “truthful”? Once again my dictionary defines it as; “Honest, and always telling the truth.” “Accurately depicting what is real.” Well…that explains itself right there. Lol

Now based on life realities we go through everyday; we encounter numerous ups and downs and end up surprising ourselves on our capabilities which most won’t dare associate with themselves ordinarily until they are in a very tight corner. What am I trying to say here? Well… hear me out. Hahaha…

No one is perfect. Show me that perfect man/woman. I’d show you a “liar/pretender.” We all have weaknesses. That’s what makes us human. Back to my topic, is truthfulness “overrated”? What does it mean to over-rate something? My English dictionary defines it as; “to esteem too high; to give greater praise than due.”Lol. Now you see where I’m headed?

At some point in one’s life, he/she has done something she/he wasn’t so proud of. Let’s say you are in a relationship or living with people that such action may affect, directly or indirectly. Because you knew in your gut, they would be disappointed if or when they find out what happened. You chose the “easy” way out. Which is to either “omit” the truth or damn straight lie about it. Lol. Now- hear why I think telling the “truth” isn’t “overrated.”

Lie or lies are like a bad penny. That’s the honest truth I’m telling you right here. It doesn’t worth the stress and pressure that it strings along, if you ask me. And like a bad penny, it keeps coming up till it bites you where it hurts. Lmao…I understand clearly why someone would be so exasperated to wonder if truthfulness isn’t given more credit than it deserves.

Mr. A/ Miss A, does something he/she isn’t proud of. He or she summons the courage which is no small feat, tells Mr. B the truth. And Mr. B being hurt or disappointed by what he has just heard, flies off the handle! Chews Mr. A out… tongue lashes Mr. A or Miss A for the offence committed, which she/he has just been courageous enough to tell the truth about. Lol.

Are you getting the picture? It’s quite rare for someone receiving such solicited or unsolicited confession not to react or overreact. One begins to wonder if it was worth the effort. It might not have been a big deal or would not have been any deal at all if one has kept his/her mouth shut. Hahaha…

At that particular moment, that popular saying “what happened in Paris stays in Paris ” begins to look enticingly appealing. In a relationship, omitting to tell the truth whenever such need arises or out rightly lying about things will only postpone confrontations. Fact is, when truth finally gets out,  because it always mostly does. It only takes a while. The anger, the hurts, hardly ever generate from the incident or action of the perpetrator. Instead it comes from the fact that the “truth” was kept from him or her for a reasonable period of time. He/she begins to wonder which other “secret/s”is being kept from him/her or what else he’s/ she’s being lied to about.

It destroys trust. It destroys faith this person has placed in you. It’s  even worse when, it was the partner that discovered  the truth, all by him/her lonesome self. You would be in a very “hot” soup. Lol.

So dear ladies… no matter how hard it is, truthfulness is still the best bet if you ask me. It’s the major way to study your partner. If you did something that your conscience bothered you about, there’s a 90% probability it will also bother someone else. Being truthful is being real. No one said it’s easy but you get to see the other person for real. Get to know how they react to life issues. By the way, lying in a relationship is not synonymous to “cheating.” That isn’t what we are discussing here today. It’s a sub-part of a whole though, for there’s a thousand and one other situations, that could lead to being “tempted” to lie or omit the truth for peace sake.

The thing is, it’s better to say it out while it’s hot and take your chances than being on edge each day trying hard to cover a lie deeper each day. Trust me, a lie will keep rearing it ugly head every chance it get, until you despise yourself for it or get caught. And none of these options is appealing or worth the stress.

Telling the truth always, no matter how hard it is at that particular time is still one’s best option. It isn’t overrated… what one needs is the courage to go through with it. Human beings will be human beings, if the person you are with doesn’t appreciate the effort and courage it took for you to be truthful, instead focused only on what he/she heard you say you did, then he or she is an insensitive bastard… just do it for your peace of mind then- always. Thank me later!

That’s all I have to say this lovely morning. Do have a wonderful week, you all.