Reach Out This Yuletide Season!!!

Hello ladies and gentlemen…

Whoa! It’s been ages!!! Merry Christmas to all you lovely people out there!

My today’s topic says;

Reach Out This Yuletide Season!!!

I’ve learned some great lessons these past months. Few of the lessons are-

 

  • Never take for granted those who had your back during the tough times- they didn’t do that because they had nothing to do or because they needed anything in return. They were there through tick and thin simply because they cared. So, this Christmas let’s reach out! Let’s show through actions that we care and value the sacrifices; efforts, time, the values their actions imparted in our lives.

 

  • Everyone has his/her life issues– yeah, life often times is a whirlpool. Most times we’re so engrossed in our own world, we forget the truly important things, i.e, being there for others, asking after them once in a while. No matter how self-contained one is or has become, we still need others in our lives.  Let’s consciously make “room/s” for others in our lives. This yuletide season would be a great time to start. Haha…

  • Reconciling-where’s needed, doesn’t make one weak or silly but stronger and happier- this joyous season- let’s fully embrace the freedom that comes through the “grace“- reach out to those we hurt; those we believed hurt us; those that for one reason or another we distanced ourselves from. Let’s extend love, forgiveness, friendship, apologies wherever it’s needed- and acceptance.

The Celebration of Christmas, I believe would be a farce if we don’t share it with loved ones and those we care about. There should be no room for bitterness in our heart this season. Let it go… allow healing to take place. Let that euphoric feeling that comes with Christmas- take your heart to a good place. A place where old wounds are no more. A place where sadness is replaced with joy unspeakable. A place of warmth. Be free…

I wish you and all yours, a happy celebration. Merry Christmas!!!

What Did You Learn From Your Previous Relationship/s???

Hello ladies and gentlemen…

I’m here again with one of those topics that we’d rather not talk about and quite uncomfortable with. My today’s topic is a question to singles. Ladies and gentlemen;

 What Did You Learn From Your Previous Relationship/s ???

Well- I promised right from the onset that I’d be your voice of reasoning, if you’d let me. What tangible lessons did we learn from our past relationships? There ‘re no breakups without reasons. There must be something that triggered that dissatisfaction, that led to the breakup even if it was neither acknowledged nor discussed.

Now- let me elaborate a bit. If you were in a relationship with someone; extravagant, mercurial in nature, a philanderer, abusive, temperamental, sadistic, aggressive and so forth. And you never got accustomed to a particular trait- among the traits mentioned above. That he/she exhibited which caused issues in your relationship. What did you learn from that relationship, about yourself, about your preference? Have you had a “me time” reminiscened on how you handled a particular situation? Or how you’d handle it if it presents itself again in the future.

Let’s take for instance in that relationship, you- and not your partner, were the problem. Let’s assume one’s partner was the one complaining about traits that one exhibited that wasn’t acceptable to him/her. Now- that you’re out of that relationship, ‘ve you thought about it? Have you honestly looked inward and taken notes of those traits that were intolerable to your previous partner? Although what might ‘ve been off putting to a particular partner might be endearing to another. This is where one needs to be alert, to know what works or not with one’s new partner. Don’t assume because “A” liked a certain trait you’ve, “B” should.

For instance, if you were in a whirlpool  kind of relationship because you and your partner constantly fought over some shady issues. Eg. If one of you cheated repeatedly and lied about it.  Now- if you were the problem. Have you learned from that terrible mistake? If your partner was the culprit, ‘ve you learned the tale tell signs of people with such traits? Could you easily identify someone with such personality given the chance for a few dates or would you still fall for the same trick?

Let’s say a particular trait/ attitude/appearance/complexion,  attracts you to an individual of the opposite sex. And you have learned through experience that, such trait is irrelevant when it comes to building a relationship- would you still fall for that same trait? If you’re quick tempered, it takes a lot to learn how to rein in one’s temper. So, while working on how to control your temper, you may consider dating someone who isn’t ill-tempered as yourself.

 

If you’ve discovered you have issues with duplicity, then avoid deceptive men/women while venturing into another relationship. Take your time, study him/her well during the dating stage. If it isn’t what you’d hoped for, extricate yourself tactfully.

Why “do the same thing over and over and expect different results?” what I’m about this evening- isn’t if the breakup was one’s fault or not. My focus is on what it’d taught you.

We should always reminiscence after a failed relationship before going into another, to avoid making the same mistakes, over and over.  Let’s be observant enough to learn a tangible lesson from a relationship that didn’t work out.

Share your view or past relationship experience and what it has taught you with us. Let’s have fun while at it!