Hello ladies and gentlemen…
My today’s topic is a question to all singles.
All Eggs In One Basket/ Are You For Or Against?
Single ladies and bachelors are often advised not to put “all their eggs in one basket.” Technically we should have backup plans for any relationship, one ventures into.
This evening I’m focusing more on the impact of this advise on the singles. I believe this advise is drummed into the ladies psyche particularly, more than the male folks. The men mostly aren’t under any pressure.
We have all heard and received this advice countless times in our lives. My question this evening is; how do we interpret this–“not putting all our eggs in one basket?” At what age or stage should this be applicable? What’s your interpretation? Is it being abused? Is it causing more heartbreaks? More harm than good?
Today I’d like to share my opinion on this euphemistic relationship advice.
- Firstly, there are stages in every relationship. One meets a potential partner at a given time, exchange contacts or one could be introduced by a friend, family member and so forth. Now, the first step is going on a date with him or her. If the first date went well, another and yet another could be arranged. At this stage, you are observing each other, trying to find out if you enjoy each other’s company. If it’s going well, you begin to relax; become less tense around each other; Communicate effortlessly; gist; joke and enjoy each other’s company.
- The second stage becomes the relationship proper. Where you discuss generally what you expect and want out of that relationship. This is also known as”defining” the relationship. At this stage as a man/ lady, if you are searching for a serious relationship that may move on to the next stage. You discovered the lady/man you are dating wants something different, maybe a fling or just not ready for something serious. Some will be straightforward enough to give you this fact as it is. Heed to it… move on. You’d meet someone who would want same things as you someday.
- This third stage is quite crucial. The relationship has metamorphosed into courtship. This stage is the most serious stage before marriage proper because the two involved would be working towards same goals. Making future plans as a team towards life as a couple. Learning minute details about their spouse to be. What works and what doesn’t for them. The basics at least…
Now, back to the topic of discussion. It seems to me, there wasn’t real clarification on where this infamous advice— (not to put all eggs in one basket) should be applied.
Based on the first and second above mentioned stages. It seems obvious to me that a man or lady that isn’t in any defined relationship should meet and date other people. However he/she should exhibit decorum at this stage. When the relationship is finally defined. If it wasn’t what you hoped for, expected, needed…then leave. Don’t just hang on to “nothing”, expecting him/her to reconsider. Or hoping you could change his/her mind. It may cause more harm than good if you persuade someone to be with you.
I hope it’s clearer now where I’m headed?
Uhm… personally, I don’t believe anyone should be dating( be involved with other people) at the courtship stage of his/her relationship. It’s not even ideal during relationships. It’s just that some never really define their relationships. For such people, anything goes. Well, if you accepted to be in an ” open relationship.”Don’t put all your eggs in one basket.” Is metaphorically meant for you.
My point this evening, is for one to be cognizant of the state of one’s relationship. So as not to jeopardize or waste unnecessary time in it. Gentlemen and ladies… let’s not allow this advice– dished out frequently at random mar our relationships. Faithfulness to one’s partner is still the best. He who wears the shoes, knows where it hurt though…
What’s your opinion on this? I honestly want to read your view on here.