Set “Achievable Goals”

Hello my beautiful ladies…

I have an interesting topic this morning. I want to talk about;

“Achievable Goals”

OK, let’s roll…! What do we understand by the term goals? My English dictionary states that ” it is a result one is attempting to achieve.” Well, this definition is self explanatory, needs no elaboration. My lovely ladies, I’m here to suggest ways to improve ourselves this wonderful morning. I believe we all have certain skill/s at this stage in life. Self employed or working.

What are the “achievable” goals, you set at least each year for yourself? Have you done that this year? What are they? I used achievable because it means it’s possible to achieve it within the time you set for it. Marriage aside … my ladies (smiles). Achievers are liked and admired in every society. Those that try to make you feel inferior or inadequate as a single lady, unmarried and above 30yrs of age,in the society, will reduce drastically if you become an achiever. Lol

There’s another powerful goal you can set for yourself. We all have flaws, if we must tell ourselves the truth. I am not saying that married ladies  don’t have flaws. All I’m saying is to use the fact that it hasn’t happened yet to your advantage. Learn through others mistake, do not wait until it happens to you too.

Set a goal to work on your notable flaws. The aim is to enjoy your marriage when you finally tie the knot. Oh! Surprised? Well, these are achievable goals if you ask me.

-If you are hot tempered– set it as one of your achievable goals and be determined to accomplish it . Learn to control your temper or how to avoid confrontations .

-Are you bad mannered? Hahaha…

shocked? C’mon, if you are rude, snobbish…you know. Set a goal to become friendly, see it as something you can achieve, tough huh? I never said it would be easy…( smiles) goals work hand in hand with determination.

  • Opinionated? There’s nothing wrong in being your own person with your own views but learn to accept that others must not see it your way at all times. Learn to see things from another’s perspective.
  •  Are you aggressive? Lol. Let me ask you a simple question? How do you feel when someone else attacks you unnecessarily? If you don’t like it…then try to avoid doing same to other people you come across.
  • Impatient? Lol. I can so relate to this and some more …even though I know it’s not nice. Work on it.
  • Snobbish? This particular one is complicated because the person being viewed as a snob may not even be aware of it. Introverts are often lumped into this category because of their quiet nature. There are real snobs though….if you are one- you see others as your inferior…arrogant? Loosen up, come down a peg or two my lady.

I could go on and on. These are just instances. Goals keeps you busy- we all know how it feels to achieve a particular goal. Imagine how awesome it would be while you were pursuing your career, job, business goals of the year, you were also able to change from one or two of your personal flaws each year.

Also never compromise on a career goal set for a particular year, no matter the trials, the obstacles of life,keep your mind on these goals. They are achievable..

The end result will be a better version of one’s self.

Always try to be the best version of yourself, someone that deserves you will surely notice…

I would say that was a lovely food for thought for today. Have a wonderful day, lovely ladies!

What’s The Role Of One’s Past In A Relationship?

Hello ladies and gentlemen…My today’s topic says:

What’s The Role Of One’s Past In A Relationship?

I mean, what mature mind would go snooping into the past of their partner? For what exactly? What’s the rationale behind it? Is it lack of trust? Could this in anyway be well intended? What if you now meet those that your partner pissed off in the past while playing “Shelock Homes” with your partner’s life? What satisfaction would you derive from getting deforming or embellished comments, about someone you care about?A person’s life just like every other part of life evolves.

Most people learn from past mistakes, which means the person you’re currently dating may’ve changed from what he/she used to be. Past experience might have shaped him or her for the better. So why leave facts for myth? I think this situation can only occur if the man or lady has a pathetic low self-esteem. I mean, don’t you have enough faith in your own judgment? Don’t you’ve enough faith in yourself to believe what you know is what there is?

Maturity means leaving the past in the past. Why do strangers opinions, whom may never have had a close relationship with your partner, matter to you?

Everyone has a past, some good, some not so good. If you had had an ugly/nasty past, would it now hinder you from becoming whom you know you can be? It would if you drag that weight around you all through life. It wouldn’t if you drop it in the past where it belong and strive to be better. You might even surpass your dreams. This is because, you believe in yourself and won’t let the past define your future.

Now- back to the present. The past has shaped you into whom you’ve become, so it shouldn’t define one in a relationship. Instead, it should make one better.

What’s your thought on this topic? Let’s share it on here.

Do have a wonderful day, you all!

Eavesdropper’s Dilemma

Hello friends…

Today, I’ve a question. You overheard your partner’s discussion with someone he or she just slept with, they didn’t know you were there. Your partner vowed it would never happen again because of you. I wonder…what would be your reaction? Hahaha…it’s not funny, I know. Walk away before they notice you were there or charge in, to get the detail?

Whatever your reaction would be to such betrayal might probably be proportional to your feelings towards your partner. I came across something quite similar about a month or two ago but the said partner in this case, walked away quietly. That struck me as cowardly, odd even. In your opinion, which should be the right reaction?

I’m damned curious, people! Let’s hear your opinion. Lol!

Do have a wonderful day!

“We Need To Talk”

Hello ladies and gentlemen…

There’s an observation I’ve made concerning relationships. Lol! Men! This question is directed to you guys. why do you all fear this statement- “we need to talk”? A lady mostly welcomes any opportunity to discuss her relationship, the way forward but men dread any discussion especially if he was told about it with that no nonsense tone. Hahaha…

Let’s discuss, guys tell us why that particular little statement bothers you, whether in a relationship or marriage. We’re all ears…

Do have a lovely day!

I Met A Man

Hahaha…that’s right. This is a lady’s story. Hear what she has to say. This man ticked all the boxes. A good listener, caring, thoughtful and “God fearing”. Let’s call him John.

John would call first thing in the morning and last before going to bed. He initially talked about his past which according to his tales was packed to the brim with sad and horrid stories. I didn’t talk about my past at all. To me, it was all in the past now. For the first time I saw a man who didn’t pry. Lol! Little did I know what was coming. Haha..

He was bold and decisive, knew what he wanted. Wow…did such men still exist? John wanted a condusive home of peace and harmony, consisting of wife and children – don’t we all? He also had an aged mother to cater for. So kind hearted, a human being! I was excited for such a monumental fortune “change” in a relationship. That’s the thing. It seemed I actually expected such a human being to exist. Didn’t l? I’ve no idea.

Well, one morning, I got a phone call that shattered to piece my sand castle. It was a distress call, John’s mother had been shot by armed rubbers. She was being wheeled into the hospital as I was informed by the caller. He couldn’t be reached on phone!I was told. I immediately tried to reach him to no avail.

The calls kept coming, I remember wondering why I was the one being called incessantly on a case like this? But there were no time to muse, the doctor informed me, she needed to be in surgery asap. I made a decision l would’ve made if she were to be my mother. I told the doctor to commence surgery and save her life. I was told how much to deposit into the hospital account before surgery could begin. I believed I did well under pressure. After the surgery, John later returned my call. I told him all that happened. He was stunned to say the least. He called me an angel for saving his mom.

I was glad, I could help. That’s all I said. Except, none of it were true. It was all theatrics, “staged”. He was a fraud trying to steal from me. I’ve thought hard through all these- and I keep asking myself, what I’d have done differently or what I’d do if someone ever needed my help again, for real or fake? The trauma alone of vizualizing a mother dying on a hospital gurney because her son couldn’t be reached.

It’s a lesson learned, the hard way. I know now what human being are capable of-all for money. How much was it that you stooped so low…

Hahaha…what’s your thoughts on love scam?

Do have a wonderful evening, you all!